You want to randomize the secret Santa name selection online and exchange names online without getting together. The site Elfster lets you create your own secret Santa name exchange system in minutes.

I remember having to get together to draw names, which makes it rather annoying.  You could randomize the process using sort of name randomizer, but then you couldn’t take advantage of all the features that Elfster offers.

Features of Elfster
1) Setup the party.  You can choose the date, invite the people, etc.
2) Setup some gift guidelines.  What kind of gifts, how much should be spent.
3) Invite members to exchange gifts.  Invite via facebook or email.
4) Elfster will automatically draw names and email each member.

So basically Elfter will exchange Secret Santa Names for you online, help you setup the party, and email each member.